By Jennifer Klein, President
can be tough and first dates can be painful. So what
are you to do? Here is a list of dating tips to start
the year out right!
· Meet your date out and drive yourself. If you want
to bail out early, you won't be trapped. Also, when
you have your own car. If things work out, you won't
have any worries about inviting your date in or not.
This helps protect you from your own impulses, because
what's worse then "will he respect me in the morning?"
is "How much will I hate myself when I wake up?". Also
when you have your own car, no need to worry about safety,
your date does not know where you live. This protects
you from a date turned bad turning in to a stalking
· Keep the date simple. You're nervous enough without
making a big show, plus you don't want to lock yourself
in to an evening you won't enjoy.
· Men, end the date first. You will make yourself stand
· Women, don't wear anything low cut or short. It sounds
like an old cliché but your first date knows very little
about the woman you are. He will take you at face value
and you don't want to give the wrong impression.
A friend of mine went out for dinner on a blind date.
She is a very conservative women, who really likes to
take her time in relationships. All of us who know her
know this about her. Her date didn't. She went out on
the date wearing a sexy low cut cocktail dress. They
went to dinner, had a wonderful evening, and when he
walked her to her door, he pounced on her! She was of
course surprised and upset, but her date didn't know
her, he just took her at face value.
· Wear clothing that you are comfortable and confident
in. First dates are uncomfortable enough without a tight
belt biting you around the waist.
· Men, be specific about where you are going. This will
make the date more comfortable, and will prevent her
from wearing a cocktail dress when you are taking her
· Ask about your date. Each of us knows we are the most
interesting subject :) But the most interesting conversationalists
are people who ask about others. Great light topics
are work, hobbies, sports, kids (if they have any).
If you are really stuck for topics to talk about, and
questions to ask, on the Dateable.com site, in our advice
corner, under romance, single life, we have a great
article by Penelope Frohart author of "The Book of Fabulous
Questions" called "What do I talk about on a date?".
She offers some great advice. http://dateable.com/advicecorner/
· Easy on the perfume. You want to knock his socks off,
but you don't want to knock him out!
· Don't forget to use mouthwash before you go out.
· Don't order sloppy food. If you are not paying for
what you order, try to stay in the middle of the menu.
· Keep the conversation light! Don't talk or ask about
old boyfriends, girlfriends, or ex-spouse. This is a
first date, not a therapy session.
· Find out about your dates eating habits before you
plan the evening. Make sure you choose a place where
they will be able to find something to eat.
· Be attentive! There is nothing worse then a date peering
over your shoulder making you feel as if they are looking
for something better.
· If you are not paying be considerate of what you order.
Try to stay in the middle of the menu.
· And last, but not least, have fun and be yourself!
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