Your Mood, and What It Says About You
type of music you listen to has a lot to do with how
you approach certain situations. After listening to
a Joni Mitchell album, a colleague remarked that we
have very different music tastes. She said that my tastes
were too "soft" and "whiny". I explained to her that,
while working, I prefer a relaxing album to counterbalance
my frustration as a writer/programmer.
fact, music has a tremendous influence on our life.
From the songs used in television commercials to what
we listen to for pleasure, our auditory senses are overloaded
on a daily basis. If we can manipulate ourselves similar
to the way commercials do, we can ease the emotional
tension inherent in our daily routine. From road rage
to romance, our lives can run a little more smoothly.
have a friend who has a bad case of road rage. He can't
drive more than a block without his face turning red.
Children run for their lives when they see him barreling
down the street in his two-tone pickup. When he's not
in the car, however, he is a tolerant, respectable person.
All he had in his car was loud, blood pumping music.
It pushed his virtual testosterone level to the point
of a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal. When I popped in
a little Wes Montgomery, his road rage all but disappeared.
He didn't notice much of a difference, but all the passengers
quietly remarked at his drastic change of face.
a larger and more important scale, our relationships
can slip into routines that we don't see as unhealthy
before it's too late. Once we establish a history with
our partner, we also develop patterns that are very
difficult to get rid of. Maybe one of you developed
aggressive tendencies when playing around, such as hitting
or biting. These actions are manifestations of deeper
way to counteract these patterns is to consciously go
against the natural flow. For example, if you and your
partner listen to stimulating music and have a contentious
relationship, perhaps you should try a more mellow sound.
On the other hand, if the relationship is passive to
a fault, louder more wrenching music might be in order.
underestimate the power that music has over your emotions.
Why do you think they call certain styles "romantic"
and others "fight songs"? Think of what was played the
last time you were at a sporting event. Elvis Costello's
"Pump it Up" is not a song that will put your infant
child to sleep. Marvin Gaye's "Let's Get It On" is an
obvious choice for seduction, but you can get creative
with what works for you and your partner. Sit down and
talk about how certain music makes you *feel*, and you
can build and personalize your own soundtrack.
to remain open minded and broaden your horizons in order
to maintain a stimulating environment. This doesn't
mean you have to radically change your life; in fact,
gradually changing your environment will manifest bigger
and better changes in all facets of your life. Having
choices in your life enables you to approach trying
situations with a plan. My friend now has only calming
music in his car in anticipation of his road rage.
personalities are constantly shaped by the environment.
Some of that is uncontrollable, but some of it can be
regulated to achieve a desired result. If you find yourself
constantly aggravated, tired, or depressed, change the
station. Pop in a new CD. Control your environment with
hopes of controlling yourself.
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